If you’re going to try to escalate from sexts and start an in-person FWB situation, though, it’s ideal if you both establish new ground rules. In order to avoid getting emotionally exhausted, it’s best to be 100% certain that you don’t still have feelings for your ex.

If your former SO is also feeling sentimental, it’s fine to go down memory lane. Discuss whether you just want to flirt or if you actually want to give your relationship another go.

If you want to start swiping right on Tinder or go out on dates again, you might want to skip sexting your ex so you can give someone else your full attention. Also avoid sexting to “use” your former partner or get revenge. If you’re motivated to “get back” at them, it’s a sign you need to fully get over your ex.

If your ex says they’re totally fine with sexts, then establish boundaries. For example, say, “Nice! So, what’s fair game? Texts? Pics? Vids? Just want to be clear. " If your ex doesn’t want to sext, thank them for advocating for themselves. Make a comment like, “I totally respect that. Thanks for letting me know. I’m fine just being friends. "

“Remember how we kept each other warm during that winter in Tahoe? 🔥” “That was the first time I’ve ever used cuffs. I’d love to try them on again…👮” “I can’t get our post-gym showers out of my mind. 😍 🧼”

“I know we shouldn’t be doing this, but I love how wrong it is…🤤” “What would all our friends think?! 😳 I don’t want to stop, though. ” “This probably isn’t recommended after a breakup. Still, it’s delicious. 🍭”

“I want to make you feel like royalty tonight. 👑 You deserve it. " “I can’t wait to look into your eyes again. 😍” “I’m so glad we’re back in touch. You make my heart race. "

“Your body is to die for. 🖤 I need to get my hands on it again. ” “Not sure I’ll ever get you out of my mind. You’re hypnotic. ” “You might be my ex, but you’re still a smokeshow. 🤷🏽‍♂️”

“I’ve never met anyone who has the techniques you do. Just…wow. ” “You’ve got a magic touch. It’s left me spellbound. ✨” “You know every move to wind me up. ”

“You up? 😈” “Hey, are you DTF?” “I’ve got nothing on and nowhere to go. 😏”

“I think we’ve got a lot to ‘work out. ’ 🛏️” “Why don’t we just let go of all the tension tonight? 😘” “Let’s go at each other like animals. No strings attached. ✂️”

“You left your shirt here…still want it?” “I’m home all alone in this sexy little set. Can you get me out of it?” “I’ve been hitting the gym every day. 🏋️ What do you think of the ‘progress’?”