For example, maybe you have a conservative career and dress the part, but you have an eye-catching keychain that hints at your passion for the occult. Scorpios are known to be interested in the occult as well, so that’s something he’ll definitely notice. [3] X Research source A small accessory with a story behind it is also great. If he asks you about it, you have a ready-made conversation starter.

Just a little something unexpected or out of the ordinary will stoke his curiosity. He’ll be attracted because he’ll feel like he just has to learn more about you, to find out all the different layers of your psyche. But speaking of layers, you want to peel those back slowly. Don’t tell him your whole life story on the first date—he’s not likely to stick around if there’s no mystery left. [5] X Research source

For example, if you always see him when you go to the local café with your friends, go by yourself at around the same time. If he’s there, you’ll have a greater chance of catching his eye. Scorpio also tends to be attracted to confidence, and a woman out alone exudes confidence.

Remember that both Aries and Scorpio are ruled by Mars, the planet of passion. Stick to topics that ignite interest (yours or his)—even if you’re into something he’s not familiar with, he’ll find your passion for the subject fascinating. Aries is a fire sign, so let him see some of that spark!

You might get in the habit of asking him, “Are you looking for solutions or do you just want me to listen?” That helps you understand what he wants from you so he won’t get upset at your reaction.

If you do blow up on your scorpion, take ownership of your actions and your words and apologize as soon as possible. He’ll forgive you—in time—if you show how much he means to you.

As an Aries, you’re known to be eager and enthusiastic, so it shouldn’t be hard for you to find something you love that you can share. [12] X Research source It’s even better if it’s something he’s not that familiar with, so you can teach him all about it. Be careful if you have a tendency to jump from one thing to another. Scorpios tend to get obsessive about their interests, so if he sees you bouncing around from one thing to the next, he might think you’re flaky or superficial—two traits he’s not a fan of.

Essential oils work great for signature scents because they’re often scents he’ll come across throughout the course of his day. Every time he smells it, he’ll be reminded of you.

For example, you might book a cabin in the woods next to a pristine lake. You can go boating or fishing during the day and cuddle up by the fire at night.

There are plenty of other games that require strategic thinking if chess isn’t your bag. Some classic 2-player games include Stratego, Scrabble, and Go. If you’ve got a couple of other players, you might try Risk or Catan.

Plan on plenty of discussion afterward—your scorpion is sure to have lots of thoughts about what you just watched. If you’re watching something at home, be prepared for frequent pauses so he can digest what just happened on screen.

If, like a typical Aries, you’re one for the grand romantic gesture, you might call the restaurant ahead of time and set up a special table and tasting menu for the two of you to savor.

Since both of your signs are ruled by Mars, it’s likely the two of you will fight for dominance and really push each other’s sexual limits—but your chemistry is raw, passionate, and primal. [22] X Research source

As an extrovert, this might be difficult for you to understand. Just think of it as the opposite of the antsy-ness you feel if you’re sitting at home alone with nowhere to go.

The best thing you can do is open yourself up to him and let him get to know you as a person—warts and all! Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not. He’ll have more appreciation for you if he can see that you’re not putting on an act with him.

When he does reveal something deeper about himself, show that you understand and appreciate the trust that he’s placed in you. You might say, “thank you so much for sharing that with me, it means a lot to know you trust me enough to talk about something so personal. "

This is an area where a Scorpio and an Aries can have problems, so you might find that you have to really watch yourself. Something that you see as harmless, meaningless flirting can really stoke a Scorpio’s jealousy.