Smile when you pass people in the hall or make eye contact in the cafeteria.
Talking to people you don’t know can be kind of scary if you’re shy, but the more you try it, the less scary it will be.
For instance, if someone says they’re going to the skate park, ask what kind of skateboard they ride or what kind of tricks they can do. Share a little about your own experience skating too, even if it’s just to say that you’ve never ridden! Asking questions lets the other person know that you’re interested in what they have to say. This can actually make them more interested in learning about you, too.
It’s okay if you feel a little shy at first—that’s totally normal!
This can feel less intimidating than approaching a whole group of people, so it’s a great option if you’re feeling a little shy!
If your school doesn’t have a sports team, try looking for one at your local community center.
If your school doesn’t have any clubs that you’re interested in, consider asking a teacher about starting a club of your own.
You may only be able to choose your electives at the start of the school year, or you may be able to update your schedule each semester. That might seem like a long wait, but it gives you plenty of time to think about what you’ll enjoy the most!
If you don’t have one or two friends yet, don’t worry about it. You’ll make new friends in time!
If you don’t have your own phone yet, ask your parents or guardian if you can borrow theirs to text or call your friends.
Pay attention to the way your new friends treat others, as well. If you notice them being unkind to others, they probably won’t be a great friend to you, either.
It might seem a little silly to ask a guidance counselor for help with friendships, but that’s what they’re there for!
